Your Role in Your Child’s State
As if we don’t already know how bad the situation of some teenagers are now. Some are experiencing being violated and equally bad, some are doing the violence against each other. But what gets them to this point of thinking? How can they go on doing things like this? How do parents prevent their child from coming to the point where he violates himself and other people as well?
The thing about parents is that sometimes they just don’t see that there is something wrong about their kid. It may be understandable for some parents because some teenager manage to hide things from them. This quality of teens may be normal but that doesn’t necessarily mean that it is acceptable. So, once they see something, as early as possible parents must be vigilant about it.
Some parents doesn’t want to be confrontational to their child because they worry about their child’s feelings. They don’t want to be tagged by their child. They worry that their child might think that they are being underestimated and their parents are narrow-minded. The thing is, its not underestimation, its guidance.
Science believes that the brain of a teenager doesn’t fully develop at their age so, a certain point of their brain is not working as well as the adults’ brains do. Meaning, they may be capable of making decisions but there are things that they might not be able to decide on properly. You let them do things because you trust them and you know that they can decide for themselves but guidance is still of essence. You have to respect their decisions; but there are things that as an adult you understand more not just because you have more experiences but also because of your physiology itself. But that shouldn’t mean that you don’t listen to them. If there is one thing you have to avoid, never shut them up if they are trying to reason out. If you know they did something wrong, explain to them the consequences of their act and why you are punishing them for it. Its not just about punishment, it’s about making them understand the scenario.
And when it comes to emotion, teenagers are more prone to loving you because of their attachment and their need, your love for them is something that you yourself can not explain but for sure its much deeper. Keep this in your mind, between the two of you selfishness should never come from your side of the relationship.
