Family Therapy
Teens become troublesome for various reasons – their environment, peer pressure, media and all other negative influences that surrounds them. Surprisingly though, one of the most unquestionable excuses on why teens misbehave and carry on their misbehavior even if they are with strangers is their family.
Whenever you talk to a problematic teen, he or she would often blame his family for it. My parents are too strict… my father doesn’t understand me… my mother expects too much from me… I am always compared to my brother… my sister treats me like crap… And the complains go on and on. The misbehavior suddenly seems excusable because the person who is supposed to be responsible for the teens’ proper upbringing is being blamed for his misbehaviors. Often, when the teen starts talking about his family problem, anyone who is listening can not really blame him anymore because parents are supposed to be the first one to understand. Unfortunately some teens take this excuse too far, blaming their parents for every inch of bad that they have become. This of course does not only sound incredulous to the hard-working parent, it may hurt more than they think. And this starts the gap of parent and child. The point where pride of both parties are damaged.
People who are into the education industry are bothered by this feud. How do you expect a troublesome child to transform his behavior if there is no trust between the parent and the child. A lot of educational programs and centers are built for the misbehaving teens but what awaits them once they get out of it? That is why, they formulated parent programs in residential/therapeutic schools. These programs aim to create s better relationship between parent and child. Parents are to undergo seminars and programs that will enlighten them about the condition of their child. They are being taught how to handle them, understand what their child is going through and communicate with their teens effectively. This way, there is a bigger guarantee that the teen won’t have to come back to any kind of reform school after spending time in a residential school.
