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Controlling Media

December 5th, 2007

Sex and violence is abundant in television shows and movies that most teens watch. As we all know, teens are very curious about a lot of things. They want to try out different things and be in different situations most of the time. There is a huge possibility that they will imitate what they are seeing.

Gaining control doesn’t necessarily mean that a parent will just turn off the TV every time violence is present. This will only instigate curiosity. The best thing to do is to explain what is being displayed in the show. Parents must make sure that their children understand the message conveyed in the TV shows and teach them about the consequences of what might happen if in case they imitate what they are seeing. Talking to them while watching TV is a good way to educate them and at the same time make a stable contact with them.

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Victims of Environment

December 5th, 2007

Most of troubled teens are victims of their own environment. Environment plays a major role in a child’s personality. Growing up in an environment filled with violence will automatically trigger a child’s instinct for cruelty. The kid will most likely imitate what the environment is displaying.

Being abused is the general problem of these teens. As a victim of violence, they tend to detach themselves from society and live a life that they will soon regret. If this happens, it may result to bigger problems such as suicide.

Keeping them away from this kind of environment is essential in their growth as a person. If it is not possible to move them out to a different place then at least they should be trained in avoiding circumstances that would lead them into trouble. One way to do this is to have an adult set a good example to a child so that even if they are staying in a hostile environment, the child knows how to shun circumstances that may harm them in the end.

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Home Improvement 101

December 5th, 2007

A home houses a family. This is a very unique explanation of what a home is. A clear-cut picture of a home depicts a happy family free from worries. Having a good home brings out the best in every member of the family.

Home improvement involves good conversation during times when the family is gathered in any activity. An example of an activity that involves all family members is eating dinner together or watching a late night movie. This is a perfect opportunity to enjoy a jolly discussion with all the members. This strengthens the connection of each member of the family. A good conversation often releases tension all at once.

Another home improvement strategy is for parents to gain the trust of their children. They must be there whenever their child encounters a problem. The child must be willing to unfold everything to their parents. This means that they should not sugar-coat any problems.

There are many factors to improve a home and this is just a few. What is important is that a good home fabricates positive results.

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Choosing the Right School

December 5th, 2007

As we all know, the school is the child’s second home. Being in the right school will provide the child with adequate knowledge and guidance while away from home for a couple of hours.

So how can parents choose the right school for their children? First, they need to get feedback from other parents regarding a particular school. Second, they must visit the school and check the ambience. Focusing inside the school alone is a big mistake. The establishments surrounding the school also play a major role in the development of a teen. If there are temptations around the school then it may be a bad idea in enrolling the kid in that school.

Basically, a parent has three basic things to look for and these are: education, feedback and ambience.

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What is teenage anger?

October 26th, 2007

i'm mad at you

Teenage anger is a natural emotion or feeling felt by an adolescent when reacting to a situation, thing or person. It is usually triggered by external factors, which can manifest both verbally and physically. In most cases, teen kids become angry because they are hurt, confused and even frustrated.  Like everybody else, teenagers can be angry at some point or another. Anger can be experienced in different levels or degrees, which mostly vary on the extent of the experience that induced the emotion. Some teenager cannot really handle anger, that is why they have a certain outrage resulting to bad behavior. When this happens, parents should always step up and  guide or help their kids manage such a feeling that can be very destructive.

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Helping teenagers become aware of their anger

October 26th, 2007

In overcoming teen anger, it is best that you can help your kids identify and become aware of their own feelings. When they are aware of their anger, they can distinguish people, situations and event that are common or recurring factors in causing such emotional episodes.

You and your kids can overcome anger by keeping a record of situations that often lead to anger, such as keeping a journal. Take note of the frequency and occasion of the episodes. You ought to know that not all anger are considered as unnecessary or useless anger. There are times that anger can be very useful or beneficial. For instance,  anger can stir confidence or motivation to overpower a wrong doing or prejudice. Try to teach your kids how to handle anger in a way that will not do damage to others or things. They should be able to understand if their anger is beyond discourse or not.

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Teen anger management

October 26th, 2007

Teenagers are just like adults – they can be angry at situations, things and people. The demands of growing up are sometimes affecting their capacity to function without emotional outbursts and mood swings. Although anger is an natural emotion, the failure to process can lead to inappropriate and destructive behavior. When teenagers become angry, they don’t only damage the object of their anger but also their very own self. As parents, it is very crucial that you will be able to help your kids, particularly when the anger is still subtle or controllable.

You can deal with it without any help, or you can consult a therapist. Either way, it is important that you will completely understand the situation and what your kids are going through. Never take their anger against them, they might resort to more damaging actions than they are already into. Approach them in a manner in which they can successfully channel and express their anger without damaging others, properties or even themselves.

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Teen Anger: Sign of Depression

October 26th, 2007

Depression starts when angry teen kids slowly become helpless. Not all kids are good at channeling their anger into obvious actions. Thus, depression related to teenage anger can be of several forms, yet it is defined by the intensity or how it affects the said teens. Typically, angry teenagers react in two ways. They either entertain their anger and become defiant or destructive, or they will just repress the anger and then eventually withdraw from the situation.

Here are some signs when your teenagers become angry and eventually depressed:

 * having an antisocial behavior
 * sarcasm
 * physically harming others
 * self-mutilation
 * destructive and disruptive
 * confusion
 * frustration
 * fear

When your teenagers are having these signs of anger for a longer period, seek professional help.

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Dealing with teenage anger

October 26th, 2007

Having teenage kids is one of the most challenging tasks of being parents. You have to handle each situation with extreme measures, because you don’t want your kids to be further mad especially at you. Teens can be angry because of pressure from family, friends, school and several other things.

You can actually help your teen kids by talking to them at par and not being a mom or dad. Believe it or not, teenagers hate to be bossed for whatever reasons. Try to approach each situation with a good sense on their part. After which, you can disclose how you feel about the issue, and then ask your children how they also feel about it. Let them know that it is alright to be angry sometimes, and it is important that they know how to deal with it. Or, they can ask your help in resolving the matter.

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Teenage anger and its sources

October 26th, 2007

One of the apparent features of the adolescent period is “emotional issues.” Teenage anger, in particular, has been a source of their confusion and frustration. In turn, teens as well as parents slowly develop reactive behaviors. The friction between the two parties often affects the parent-child relationship. So what really is teen anger? When teenagers become angry, there are usually a number of reasons. They often include:

 * Trauma. For instance, they have an accident in the sports they have always loved. They become mad because their recuperation takes longer than expected.
 * Grief. Deep sadness can be grounded in several things, such as death of a loved one.
 * Abuse. It can be physical, verbal or sexual kind of abuse.
 * Depression. Not performing well in school can be a reason.
 * Alcoholism. Teenagers usually get out of hand when they resort to alcohol abuse.
 * Substance Abuse, like drugs can lead to unpredictable irritability or anger.

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